I have found that even the saints are prone to dwell too much upon things that discourage. At least this is my experience. It is good to be able to confide in one another and talk about the things that trouble us. But it is not good to let our burdens and difficulties become a load that we always carry and a burden that we always place upon the brethren. If we would stop and consider, for every burden that the child of God has, there are ten thousand blessings! And all these blessings are in Christ! If we have burdens and trials (and every child of God does), in the long run they will prove to have been a blessing from God. Never make light of a brother's complaints nor brush them off and ignore him, but try to encourage him by speaking of the good things, the things that we have in Christ, such as life, peace, righteousness, and redemption. We must continually remind ourselves and others, that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose (Rom 8:28).